How We Got Here


Biochemist Dr. William Frey discovered that Reflex tears are 98% water, whereas emotional tears also contain stress hormones & other toxins.
Crying stimulates the production of endorphins, our body’s natural pain killer & “feel-good” hormones.
You can have tears of joy, say when a child is born or tears of relief when a difficulty has passed.

Why Are We Afraid?

Fear is a beautiful thing, it shows us where our challenges are. Sometimes that challenge is escaping a very real threat, like an armed perpetrator in your home. Often though our fears are unfounded and yet they determine so much of how we live day to day. Mark Twain once said, “I am an old man and have known a great many troubles, but most of them have never happened.” This quote exemplifies a choice we have, to live in fear of what we don’t understand and construct our lives around avoiding it, or, choosing to become an explorer of our own journey, a scientist of our transformation. To be an explorer you have to take risks, explorers are among the first to tackle the unthinkable. So in honor of becoming explorers of our pain, opposed to denying ourselves of that opportunity, here is a list of reasons as to why we might be afraid.
-Death for many of us is our greatest fear
-We associate pain and grief with Death, thus avoiding all of it.
-Very few people talk about grief and death so why should you?
-We live in a culture of permanence
-The pain of others reminds us of our own pain
-Its only natural to fear what we don’t understand
-Why face our fears.. its much easier to avoid, numb or distract ourselves.. Or is it?

Where We Are At Now

As a culture, where we are at now is likely more reflective of our individual processes than most of us are willing to accept. The more work I do on myself, the better the world around me will be.

How I relate to you, whether I dismiss you or I am kind to you, whether at the grocery store or in line at the coffee shop, whether at yoga or at the bar, whether verbally or energetically, however minute, has an affect on the bigger picture. Of course if I judge and dismiss my own feelings, disregard my own truth, I will ultimately be unable to do anything but dismiss and disregard yours.

As obvious and tragic as people’s choices may be, as damaging and thoughtless as they are, I am likely a perpetrator of my own kind. So should I choose to face the unfaceable, to look at the little unhealed parts of me, & to learn to honor them, love them, speak to them and for them, I may in fact be contributing to the healing and resolution of the very things I apparently think I have no responsibility in.